Few activities have the potential to be as arousing and connective as sharing desires and fantasies with our partners. Often, desires and fantasies are thought to be the same thing, which can lead to disappointment and hurt feelings. Understanding the difference between desire and fantasy is crucial to sharing your…

January is when many of us begin the project of goal attainment and making changes. Some of us call this a New Year’s Resolution, others may look at it as a fresh start to the new year. Exploring and nurturing our sexuality often end up on these lists of goals…

I recently took an online class offered by Yale, about the science of well-being. I learned a ton about happiness, our brains, and how we self-sabotage. Of course, I could not help but take everything I learned from the class and apply it to the subject of sex and relationships…

In case you missed this in your American history class, (you did) the first Pride was a march honoring the one year anniversary the Stonewall Riot in NYC on June 28, 1969. The riot was a response to police brutality and harassment that was being perpetrated against the LGBTQ+ community…

To my knowledge no one has uttered the phrase, “I really enjoyed grad-school.” At least no one I have ever encountered. I certainly never imagined returning to school myself to earn an MA, let alone a PhD, which is my eventual goal. Most people contemplate this decision long and hard…

In my Grandma’s home, there is a family photo gallery adorning the wall parallel to the staircase. From a very young age my Grandma would tell me the stories of each person in every photograph; members of my family who I have never met, some long dead before I was…

I recently had a first session with a new couple that wanted to learn how to have creative and connective sex; specifically, without a bio-cock. For the purpose of this blog, let’s call the two women of the couple Zoe and Gwen. They were having trouble with everything from initiation…

Shelby Devlin

Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and CMT. Pleasure advocate for individuals and couples. shelbydevlin.com

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