Shelby Devlin M.A.Distinguishing BDSM from AssaultBDSM is consensual erotic play that can sometimes be mistaken as abuse. Some individuals maliciously exploit this confusion, citing BDSM as…Oct 18Oct 18
Shelby Devlin M.A.Overcoming JealousyMany years ago, my partner and I were having a threesome with a new lover. We had been in bed together for a couple hours, having a fun and…Sep 17Sep 17
Shelby Devlin M.A.The Alluring Femme DomI am a femme dom. This means that I am a feminine person who is also dominant, but this also means that I wield my femininity as a tool for…Aug 19Aug 19
Shelby Devlin M.A.The Good, the Bad, and the BratA submissive’s motivation to surrender.Jul 301Jul 301
Shelby Devlin M.A.The Gift of Dominance: Key skills to become an excellent lover.I am a great lover. I have done the research, collected thew data, and put in my 10,000 hours and counting. What sets me apart from the…Jun 27Jun 27
Shelby Devlin M.A.Cuckold & Hotwife KinksCuckolding and hotwifing have gained increasing attention as forms of sexual expression within consensual kink relationships. These two…May 28May 28
Shelby Devlin M.A.Consensual Non-ConsentOne of the most common BDSM fantasy themes is also the most controversial — forced sex fantasies. Forced sex fantasies, rape fantasies and…Apr 22Apr 22
Shelby Devlin M.A.Common BDSM PracticesAs our culture becomes more open-minded and accepting of sexual variation, BDSM has emerged from the shadows, gaining recognition and…Feb 19Feb 19
Shelby Devlin M.A.Problematic Sexual DesireI cannot count the number of times a new client has sat on my couch and told me that they weren’t comfortable with what turns them on, and…Jan 30Jan 30
